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Do I need a coach or a therapist? What's the difference?

While there can be overlap concerning issues that both coach and therapist alike can address with clients, one general difference is that psychotherapy tends to spend more time delving into the past to help diagnose and treat current symptoms and issues, whereas coaching focuses on more immediate behavioral changes and current mindset to ambitiously move towards future goals. Therapy can offer tremendous and valuable insights into one's past and current functioning, and coaching can offer rapid movement towards personal, relationship, and business goals.

How do I get the most out of my coaching experiences?

Motivation. Motivation. Motivation.

There are many likely components necessary to achieve the successes you seek. Sometimes, progress may require changing physical habits or doing a number of novel behaviors. Other times, progress may require patiently but diligently introspecting, clarifying, and refining concepts and work discussed in sessions. Progress at times requires an immediate shift in mindset or attitude. Throughout each of these varying components, it is the motivation of the client that drives progress. A highly motivated client with a competent coach can resemble a fast-moving freight train that is hard to stop! Low motivation, even with superb coaching, will move that train along at a snail's pace.

What is Coach Ellender's particular style of coaching?

Coach Ellender values openness, guidance, rational objectivity, empathy, structure, and precision within coaching relationships. If you need encouraging words, you will have them. If you want more specific guidance, we will work together to define smart options for forward movement. If you need to slow down a minute to address something serious or tedious, we will patiently give that issue its due attention.

What is a realistic timeline for a successful coaching experience?

The total timeline is absolutely client-specific, based on their personal goals, life circumstances, and motivation. In the big picture, some goals can be achieved within weeks or months, whereas others may require 1-2 years of collaboration. Coaching relationships typically start off with weekly or bi-monthly sessions, which may reduce over time once positive momentum has been well-established. Individual sessions are 50-minutes long, and there are typically additional texting and email communications between sessions to 'check-in' or collaborate on session assignments.

What types of clients does Ernest typically work with?

Coach Ellender enjoys working with a broad variety of motivated people from diverse backgrounds who are dedicated to making positive changes for themselves. This includes teens and adults of all races, religions, and sexual orientations/identities, as well as those struggling with addictions or who were formerly incarcerated.

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